Thursday, May 05, 2005
I went to this talk yesterdae regarding how to score in an interview using NLP technology. Wasn't particularly useful, except for some useful tips like to tell yourself "you can, you must or you will succeed" rather than "You try, you wish or you hope to succeed". Another thing we learn is to find out whether a person is lying or not by the actions he does. After the lesson, I realize something else myself, that finding a job is like finding new love.
When you look out for a job, you have some ideals in mind, just like some qualities when looking out for a girl that you may like. But maybe as time goes by you realize you set your goals to high, your requirements start to drop and of course as you get older and you still dun have a stable job/relationship, you most probably take anyone or anything that comes by. People talk about being with the girl you really love; people also talk about finding the job you really love. Some of us feels that it’s not easy to find someone you really love, so they settle for something else lesser. They all think that love can be nurtured, and they will grow to love someone, just as they will grow to love a job they dun like in the first place. Finding someone you really love can be tiring as you put in your best to make sure she don't leave you, same applies to a job you love very much. Can everyone really find a job they love? The answer probably lies in can everyone find true love? What is true love? Then may I ask what is true job suitable for you? A lot of us think we really know the answer, but I think we won't know. It’s only till the dae your boss sack you and you cry because you love the job so much, and not because you wun have a salary anymore. Only when you can tell your boss you will work for him/her for free. Then that’s probably true job eh? Just like you can’t bear to break up with someone coz you cannot live without her and not rather you miss those good times you had. Even then, is that true love?
When we go for interviews, we want to impress the interviewer. When we go for first dates, we want to impress the girl. We might even say things that are not true; sometimes the interviewer might say things that are not true if they are desperate. Haha but the chance of that is pretty slim. So when we are offered a job, if it’s a job we love, we will be happy. When it’s not a job you really like, you will take a little time to consider and in the end they always say, "You never try, you never know". Who knows you might like the job.
That’s true to a certain extend, just that you know some jobs you will never grow to love, so why bother to try? Problem is you have been single/ jobless for so long, any girl and any job is worth a try. Of course some jobs you will never apply, those that you apply for are those you think you may grow to love them, or they have external factors like she's rich, she's beautiful, she's popular etc. Just like a job that pays well, have a nice building, good reputation etc.
Haha finding a new job while you already have one and letting your boss know, you are probably getting a boot from her. Same applies to a relationship. Thinking about another job while you have one wun make you a good employee, or a good lover. Juggling between two jobs will exhaust you, dun ever even try to think of juggling between two women, they will kill you. Haha its seems as I go on and on, there seems to be so many similarities between jobs and relationships.
At the end of the dae, all I want to say is all those out there, whether you are looking for love or job, dun despair, dun give up! For those experiencing hiccups in their jobs or relationship, hang in there! The sun may not always shine, but when the rain dies out, and the clouds go away, we await for not the sun, but the rainbow. Whatever the case, look at not the misery, but the beauty that remains.