Monday, January 29, 2007
Working Relationship (PART II) - 11:07 PM
I wrote a post in 05 May 2005, about finding a job is like finding new love, how interviews are like first dates where you impress the gal. For those who did not manage to know me then, heres a link back to refresh the memory...http://mangodaily.blogspot.com/2005_05_01_mangodaily_archive.html
Well now 1 and half year into the job, I have new inspirations. People around me keep saying they wana change jobs. I myself say I won't change, but somehow at times I am confused, at time I am tempted. Such is a parallel drawn to love, or a relationship you would say.
After you successfully courted the girl/guy(job), you have to maintain a good healthy relationship. No doubt you wana please the girl/guy(boss) and impress in your work. At first things are fine. You don't expect alot, so the first anniversary you get one rose, you say wahh, so sweet. Then the second year, you still get one rose, you say thanks dear... Then third year you get nothing, he say times are hard... pls be understanding. You say its ok, I understand. Yes you understnd, and you remember. For once the economy is good, you remember for three years, you get only 2 roses. And you understand, you don't wan to marry this guy.
And of course as time goes by, things won't be that smooth. There will be quarrels, though in work, they do only end in one directions. Thus employees become Mr nice guy, alway enduring the tormenting relationships. Some nice guy just cant take it anymore one day and shout back! And yes, this often ends up ending the relationship. Some end it subtley and tell the girl he wana break up. He will say lets give each other one month (one month notice) to think about it, and they break up.
Some simply love the girl too much to break up with the girl and bear all the downside of the relationship. Some won't even want to break up when told to break up and will beg the girl not to break up with him. This kind of guys will say "Pls don't break up(sack) with me. I promise I will change. I won't be late again. I will do my best, I will...." Yes, leopards never change its spots, they do still end up getting fired at the end of the day. Simply course boss seen through too much relationships to know this.
Some of us stay in the relationship for something. Be it for money, a rank, or the name. Some just stay employed for a simple reason. They think being single is no good, like very paiseh. Just like being unemployed is no good, not even for a moment. So end up in the working relationship world, a lot of us are rather unfaithful. In the sense when even attached, we look around for prettier girls, or guys who are richer. So that when the other party is also interested in you, you will ditch your current boy or girl friend and sail in the new boat. In this working world, you are always attached, BUT available. It seems, only if you are super lousy, you are single and available. There are also people who are single, but not available. They enjoy freedom, they do what they want and they still survive. These are lucky people. And I am not lucky.
Of course even when opportunity knocks on your door, some are not tempted at all. He feels very loved in his current relationship, and he is committed. He feels very comfortable and put in all his efforts. He work day and night. He is married to the job. But the parallel ends here. In every working relationship, they alway end up in divorce. there's no happily ever after. At most the golden handshake. And she is off with a new guy. A young one. A better looking one. Yes work is like a devil. They never grow old, and they suck you dry. Don't give them your life, only to realize you have gain nothing in return except old age. Remember to take what you need, what you been searching for, in return for your youth and hard work given. Life is about give and take, so is work. You have other life outside, except work. I hope I myself remember this.