Saturday, August 30, 2008
Love is... - 10:24 PM
Which is more pitiful? A person who have lived alone by himself, waiting only for the right one to come along, or a person who is afraid of being lonely and constantly find someone to be in love with. There is no answer to this question for I guess it does not make any difference. Each is happy in their own decision, each in their own belief.One may laugh at the notion that there is no right one, or worse, THE ONE. There should be plenty out there, and you only have to constantly try and find the one that suits you MOST. Its a question of comparison between which one, not a question of finding the right one, or the special one. What happens when the one intended for you all your life met with an accident and dies off before you 2 even got the chance to meet? Do you remain alone all your life? To love and lost (even if it isn't your true love) is better than than not to love at all. but is that love?
From the other point of view, being with someone that you do not think is THE ONE is just a lousy solution out of loneliness. These people rather be alone then spend their time searching in the crowd. They believe that special one will chance upon them, and the moment their eyes met, they will fall in love with each other forever. Love at first sight, hardly a notion nowdaes, which alot out there will think it belongs more to a fairy tale book.
So should one believe in fate? I remember watching shows where they say each one of us have another better half, somewhere out in this world. We are meant to be together, complement in some ways, alike in others. Unfortunately in the world I live in today, fate hardly plays a part. Love is rather an act of own volition, the choice to choose who you fall in love with. Most of us just choose someone due to her qualities or due to some external factors, rather of letting the feeling flow, and it just happens. There is no reason why you like someone, except for that fact that you love him. Not because he is cute, he is rich, he is kind not funny. For if one day should he loses these qualities, you will no longer love him?
I am one who thinks that true love do exists, and that there is indeed a special one out there. Haha before I sound like a hopeless romantic, I must say that despite my belief, I have to bow down to reality at times, and alot in the past. I am not a love saint, and I have made countless mistakes in the past. So much so I sometimes do not know what to believe in anymore. Everything about love becomes a facade, and you lose hope in it. But despite all these, I hope I can still find the courage to believe in it when it happens. And I do hope the next time I do fall in love, I will not look at her qualities, her looks or for any other reason; except for the fact that she gives me warmth when I touch her, make me alive when she smiles at me and that very simple reason - the feeling that flows through us called love...