Sunday, November 02, 2008
Women equals Men... - 9:21 PM
I do not know what overcame me to write this entry, but I somehow got the idea, can't remember if it’s through radio, through the things I see or the papers. I guess a bit of everything.
We have seen over the years where women start to feel that its time they have been treated equally with man. They do not want to be stuck at home doing housework and they want to be seen as equal to man. They feel that their status has been suppressed, that they feel like home slaves rather than housewives. They got enraged by men who call their wives free maid. They decided even should they be doing housewife job, they should be call a nicer term, thus the word homemaker came about. Well men could not be bother with what their wives call themselves as long the job get done, the kids are looked after. But as time progresses, women wanted more. They want to be career women and work in the society as well. So as time goes by, more and more women showed that they are as good as men, some even better than men in the work field. Coupled with the factor of rising cost and increasing wants, a man alone cannot support the family and thus the wife joins him in the field of work.
Before anyone get me wrong, I have nothing against women working or seeking equality. I for one would say it would be a super boring place if my work place is all guys and no girls. It’s just that when some woman seeks equality, it seems its more than that they want. They seem to want everything to be in their favour, till its... well a bit overboard. I am NOT saying ALL women (I do not intend to seek the wrath of many women reading this blog). I am merely saying it seems SOME women are like that. Its just that this seem to be a common problem among young couples nowadaes. When they fight, common response from men is if women want to be equal, let them serve NS. Then women will reply, why don't you come and give birth to a baby. When will this debate ever end?
I on a personal level do not agree to both parents working when the kids are young. I on the receiving end knew how it felt to come back to an empty home after school everyday. Going from nanny to nanny when you are young do not feel good too. Do not bring in suggestions like hiring a maid/nanny, or letting your grand parents look after your child. It’s just different. So if we were to choose only one parent to work, then that would cause conflict since women want equality. And since old ages, mothers have to sacrifice. Its not we look down on them, it’s that with their motherly instinct, they seem to do a better job. And don't we all love our mum for their sacrifice and great love? Besides, from an Economics' point of view, to be on the efficient frontier, we should produce the maximum output with the minimum resources. So if the husband is indeed earning less than what the mother can bring in, then by all means the husband should be the one staying at home looking after the family. I being more understanding would not mind being a house husband. Haha but then again, I totally suck at tidying the house, so doing comparative trade analysis, I should not stay at home as it brings no benefit to anyone (what an excuse), oh but I digress. Point is, why can’t people just do what they are best in and not feel being treated unfairly?
To bring the point further, if you are a woman, and your husband sacrifice to stay at home, will you look down on him? You may say NO now! But touch your heart and imagine 5 years down the road when you a manager and you bring him out on your company function and people ask him about his job. He got no accomplishment and only stays at home to look after the children. How would you feel when people sneer at him? More importantly, how would he feel? I remember there was this TCS show on this, but alas I did not catch the full show and I do not know the ending. Even at times when the guy sacrifice, you might not even appreciate it. THESE women do not want equality, they wants superiority.